He might not bring you breakfast in bed every morning…but if he starts the coffee maker without asking, he’s a keeper.
He might not leave the sink clean, hang up the towels or remember his dirty socks; but if he has the lunches packed and ready to go- complete with each child’s likes and requests, the guy’s a keeper.
He might not clean up his crumbs, remember to hang the dish towel up to dry or do the laundry- but if the van is scraped and ready to go even before you are in it, you’ve got yourself a true gem.
He might not be a cook, a cleaner, a mopper, a walker or even a super-listener or talker: but when you need him, you know he’ll be there.
He might not be in possession of all of those elusive qualities you once thought you needed.
But in time, you have come to realize that it really doesn’t matter: he is exactly what you require. He’s it- your match. And you know now that you really could not do without him, for he is perfectly suited to meet your personality and character. Made to be your other half. You were meant for each other. He and you, you and him.
And although you might not be everything that a person was destined to be either (but, hey! who’s keeping track), he loves you anyway. Loves you for who you are, how you are- exactly the way you are.
Loves you for being YOU.
And because he loves you- it doesn’t matter anymore what might have been. Could have, should have, would have been. All that matters is what it is anyway. What it is right now.
And maybe, like me- you’ve decided that what is yours as a couple is imperfectly perfect. Just the way it happens to be. Even if it might mean that LIFE isn’t perfect- that life isn’t always the way you’d like it.
What matters is the two of you. And what you’ve got is all you’ve ever needed.
Just the way it is.
Go ahead- tell him you love him. Say the words. And while you are at it, tell yourself that whether or not he remembers to throw out the trash/pick his clothes up off the floor/tidy his papers: he’s still your best friend.
Never forget how much you love him.
And chances are, (with this kind of imperfect formula in play),he’ll not forget how very much he loves you back.
Thanks, sweetheart. You’re a keeper too. Nice picture. Some random Canadian drug lord…?
This comment made me laugh very hard OUT LOUD! 😉
Mas Hery says
a cup of tea please….
awww, you guys…I think at this stage in the game, all these years, all those kids…all the places you’ve been, the life you’ve lived, you are a very part of each other, for sure…we are the lucky ones, who still get to be living with and loving our spouses — look around at all the broken homes and hurt families…we are all flawed, but…so blessed to have the lives we have…I couldn’t even imagine either of you without the other now…love you both.
Luella Bredin says
I loved this story and I loved that picture-was wondering the same thing, Brian??? Who is that crazy in the tee shirt in a PEI winter!!! You both are great for each other–I can’t imagine any other son-in-law for my oldest daughter! Hope you all have a fantastic time (while we dig out—-again!!!)